Going Through Bad Phase? Stop Eating Rotten Apples!

by King Sidharth on August, 2009

Life suddenly takes a turn and we find ourselves in unmotivated, painful, and boring life. It is like a phase when almost everything is going wrong – from our best friends to workplace or school. We then hope for a miracle to happen. We want it to be over already. We are going through a bad-phase. So Where did it all began and Why? What is it telling us? And where is taking us? When is this phase going to end

“It all starts with a seed, it all starts with a thought.”
-King Sidharth

Catch the Garbage

It often starts with us catching garbage! Someone manifested garbage in their lives, they can’t bear it and like every normal human being they want to share. They throw the garbage at us and we happily catch it. The garbage can be anything ranging from negative comment to advice on how life ‘Should be Lived’ or even noticing negativity. Believe it or not it all starts like this.

Someone says we are too short or too tall, too fat or too thin, too talkative or too silent and we like a good child, believe it and think ‘We are not good enough’. But let me ask you ‘Who the hell are they to tell you that you are not good enough?’

Even if they are your parents, best friend, boss, teacher, religious leader or me; they are no one to set standards for you. You are the one who need to do it. Stop listening to their ‘should list’, even they are not perfect!

But…

I can hear you saying, ‘Then how will I improve?’, ‘How will I know what is wrong with me’ or maybe ‘That would be stubbornness and pride.’ or similar groans.

Then How Will I Improve?
You have tried this method of improving till now. Has it worked? No! It always lands you in the phase where your life becomes hell! So its a big fail.
How will I know what is wrong with me?
That is most funny thing I’ve herd in ages! Why’d you think there is anything wrong with you?
That would be stubbornness and pride.
Yes, Indeed. My answer to this:

That’s it baby, when you got it, flaunt it.
-Mel Brooks (The Producers)

Let me put it another way, or the apple way.

Stop Eating Rotten Apple

Rotten Apples

Someone is ill because of eating rotten apples and he has got plenty of them. He offers you one saying that you SHOULD eat it. Guess what? We take it! How stupid!

When we are about to eat it, our emotions tell us that it is wrong, we don’t feel good. I’d be stupid to think that it’s us who is rotten not apple. Similarly when you listen to negative comment or one of the classic ‘SHOULDS’ we feel bad, emotions are telling you that there is something wrong with it (not you!) so don’t take it.

But we go one step ahead – we bite the rotten apple! Now our senses repulse and reflex actions want to throw it out. Body is saying ‘It is bad! Throw it out!’. Similarly, we accept those negative comments and classic should and our bodies react. Those headaches, soreness in throats, pains, accidental cuts and Bad Mood is telling you ‘It is bad! Throw it out!’. But we think we are jinxed!

Then we take more bites, and struggle though it. Thinking that easiest way to get rid of apple is to eat it rather than throw it. We think that we are supposed to accept and act on negative comments and classic should rather than throw them away. That is when we hit the bottom, it can’t get any worse.

Now the rotten apple, which we lovingly put in our bodies, is rotting us. It will take it’s time to go out and till that time you will feel bad: upset stomach, food poisoning etc. This is what we know as ‘The Bad Phase’: everything is bad, we feel powerless and helpless. Shouting at God ‘When will it be over?’
And our dear God gives us choice (as he always does). We can keep thinking about ‘The Bad Phase’ and manifest more of it. Or we can stop thinking about it and focus on good things and get over with it.

We Are Perfect

Every cell of our body knows that we are perfect. We do not need to add anything to our bodies, because they are perfect. We cannot put a needle in our bodies because it is not needed. Our bodies can heal, grow and evolve on their own. And if you will force it you will feel pain. It is miraculous.

Same is with us, we do not need others judgment and approval to correct ourselves, improve and evolve. We have inbuilt system for that. And if you will force it, it will hurt as a ‘The Bad Phase’.